The types of reactions, comments and questions that Laura and I get out in public have been well documented on this blog (see Top Ten Reactions to Baby #6)
But out of all the questions we get, my favorite is “So… How many kids do you guys want?” And I don’t mean it’s my favorite in a sarcastic way. I truly love this question because it gives me the opportunity to tell people that we’re open to whatever God gives us – a decision Laura and I made very early on in our marriage (see Post #8). After thinking we could never have kids, and then finding out we were having twins, we could never bring ourselves to do anything to “Plan” or not plan for a child ever again.
Some people get it – you can just tell by their genuine reaction. But other folks can’t completely hide their confusion behind the polite smile and “Good for you guys” response.
One of the biggest reasons I started this blog was to be able to give a more thorough answer than what I can typically manage while standing in the check-out aisle – so here goes nothing.
How Many Do You Guys WANT?!
Here are a few of our typical responses…
“How ever many we are given”
But my personal favorite…
“All of them”
The looks are priceless when we drop this one.
And while it comes off as being a total smart ass – that’s not the intent (ok, maybe a little), what I’m trying to say to them is that I can’t imagine my life without each and every one of the kids that I have been given.
So if you’re asking me for a number… Think about what your actually asking me for. You are asking me for the point of diminishing returns. That is to say, the number of kids where the joy they bring into my life is outweighed by their accompanying baggage. (Got a 3.5 in Econ… no big deal 😉 ) I just don’t see how that will ever be the case, so my answer… “All of them”.
Now, that doesn’t mean Laura and I have set out to pop out as many kids as we can before menopause (although it may look that way considering our current pace 🙂 ) But what it does mean is that we won’t shut the door on it either.